First things first.. I met my friend Vis for lunch yesterday and he paid so I owe him. As a person who is terrible at remembering these things, I need to keep better track. What’s a better way to do that than write it down in a place where I’m already keeping track of like 10 other things. I’m pretty sure FitBit is never gonna add that to their App so this is it. Writing things down always helps me remember anyway. That’s why I’m always taking notes. My retention rate increases by probably 70% if I write it. Seeing things does not help me as much. I’m not a visual learner.
Anyway, lunch was great! I’m grateful. It’s fascinating to talk to people and get their perspectives on the world (and things more relevant and closer to home). It’s not lost on me that this relationship I’m in has moved fast. The question is whether you can really know a person until you’re all the way out of the new relationship phase. How long is that? According to Vis, 18 months. According to Amy, you should be with someone two whole years to get a sense of how each season, month, and holiday turns out.
I know someone who was married after like 2 weeks and they’ve been married over 25 years. I know someone who dated for 6 years and then got married. Within a year they were already separating and on their way to divorce. My first go at 19 years old was like 8 months but half of that was apart because he joined the Air Force. Regardless of how that turned out, it lasted 17 years and I have 2 amazing children. Not so bad.
My point is, there are no rules and no right way. You just gotta trust your instincts and my instincts on this are solid. It’s kinda like rolling dice… all so random anyway. You can’t predict a full house or a strait. You can’t keep 3, 4, 5, and 6 and then expect to get a 2. You just can’t. You have to just go for it.
Anyway, aside from another lunch today with my bestie Barbie, I’ve got a full workday and gotta really try today to get stuff done. It seems like nobody even cares I’m on vacation next week. They are in denial and still loaded up the sprint with a full set of story points. Whatever. They are gonna have trouble getting ahold of me when I’m south of the border. My phone won’t work there and I’m not taking my laptop. I’m planning on being drunk and unplugged.
I had a nice primer last night. I started with a glass of wine at dinner and just kept going. The kids and I had a nice time and Z and I had great talks. C was not as engaged in the conversation. I hung out and Z baked cookies and we did some trampolining outside for a hot minute. Then we played dice party which is a game on an app we downloaded a few weeks ago that’s like Yahtzee. It’s a nice thing to do while talking.. dice rolls are random of course and she won once and then I won and then we were done (that’s how it goes you know). By 8pm I had had 3 glasses of wine which is about my limit these days and called it a night.
At that point I was too tired to do anything else and just laid in my bed taking to Jim until sleep started to threaten the conversation. It was a good day. Then I’m all like .. Wake up- rinse- repeat! Life is good.
How good? It’s like Rolling 5 sixes on your third try… Yahtzee!